Knock, knock...

"Knock, knock!" Who's there?" "Death.." Pretty morbid way to start off, yeah I know, but it's the truth. That's exactly how it all starts. It just randomly shows up at your door step whether you are ready for it or not. What happens after he shows up?

Well, as a young adult who just lost her best friend, I have seen what happens. This is not my first rodeo, I have been down this road before with losing friends. Losing my first guy best friend my Junior year of high school, losing a family of 10 a few short months later, and losing someone I considered my brother a few months after graduation. It's something that you never get used to, and it's never something that comes expected, especially when all the people named were people under 21.

The first step after a friend dies is to get right on the social network site called Facebook and post how sorry you feel about the whole situation. That's done whether you knew the person or not. Then you go off and write on the wall of the deceased and their family members. And after about a few hours, you start receiving the messages asking if you are okay.

Now those messages come into your phone every few hours or so. From the same people, over and over.. Like after three hours your stability has changed. No, I'm not alright. I just lost my best friend. How would you feel? Now I'm not saying that these messages aren't appreciated, because they most certainly are. But they are however, a pain in the ass because after awhile the mourner relaxes and calms down, and with you asking how they are every few hours just digs at those wounds.

After that you start to see the posts of the people who never knew the deceased. They act like they are sooo hurt over the whole situation. Okay, showing that you care and are upset is one thing, but acting like you were best friends forever is just bullshit and not needed at all. Not only will it upset the family, but it will upset the people who were close to the person. However, on the flip side, there are people who say they were friends with the deceased and you may not have known. DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT, EVER, ask or question about the friendship of a person and the deceased. First off, it's none of your business. Secondly, it's rude. Completely, 100% rude.

Keep in mind, you don't know what is going through one's mind. Be there to listen, hold, and have them cry on your shoulder if they need it. You may not know what they are going through, but just being there is enough. 







With that said, I hope no one has to go through as much mourning as my small town has. May God watch over you and your town.