Smile more.

Within the last month (weeks actually), the nation wide recognition of suicide prevention came and went. This is something, if you have read my previous posts or know me personally, that means a lot to me. With having my best friend and love take his own life, and it almost being 2 years since that horrific date, I feel that this post will be relevant.

I read something somewhere once, that if that person would have gotten a "Hello" or a simple "How are you?" they never would have taken their own life. One simple word could have changed their whole perspective. However, don't think just because you assume that your friend is suicidal that if you say hi to them, that they won't go through it. There are MAJOR signs that that person will show before anything happens; sadly, they are over looked until it is too late.

Giving personal belongings away. Threatening it (which is their cry for help). Saying that they can't handle things anymore and there is only way one out. Of course, none of these things my friend showed (except he gave his stuff away). He seemed like a happy go lucky person. And that is where this post is going.

You don't know what is happening behind closed doors with people. They may smile and laugh and joke about life, but in reality they are going home to be beat. Or they may seem like they have their head on their shoulders, and really they are fighting with a drug or alcohol issue. They may just be depressed about life, and the medicine that they are on makes them seem normal, but in reality they are seeing things and hearing things that no normal person should see. You don't know what is happening in their lives.

Had my friend had talked to someone and that someone actually had done something, he may still be here. Think about it. If someone is coming and talking to you and telling you that suicide is the only option, don't be afraid to get them help. They may be too afraid to do it them self; fear of looking weak is a big thing. Even if it is just talking to their family about what they have been telling you, may be the start to getting them the help that they need.

I am going to keep this short, because there are not enough words in the world to explain how I truly feel about suicide and the prevention of it. But next time someone jokes about suicide, don't let them get away with it. Take every joke and complaint serious. Know the person too. They may only be looking for an ear to talk to, or a shoulder to lean on.

LOVE

Whine and Complain some more.

Due to recent posts on my lovely Facebook feed, I have decided to write about whining, or for lack of a better word, bitching! We've all done it, we've all read it somewhere, but have we actually stopped to think about it?

I have seen these posts a million times. Person is going somewhere, and out of no where. BAM! They get pulled over for speeding. You try to get out of it, but it doesn't work. You end up with an obscene amount to pay on your ticket.... And then what do you do?

YOU BITCH! Of course! What else is there to do? It's just so much easier to sit and blame others, then to see that we are at fault ourselves. Now, I am not really one to complain about this, because I am the queen of bitching.. But I got to thinking the one day about what people who get speeding tickets are really complaining about.

Let's put it in terms that some may understand (hopefully a lot more than some). Let's set the scene, shall we? You work at McDonald's. It's late at night, and I am STARVING. I can literally hear my stomach growling in my sleep. Anyway. I come into McDonald's to get a cheeseburger. I order. I pay. You bring me my food. BUT WAIT! Let's not forget that I am going to eat that cheeseburger, and I am then going to go home and complain about YOU doing YOUR job. You made that burger with that damn smile on your face. You just looked so damn happy to be making me it. I could see the drool forming in the corners of your mouth. You were just doing your job thought; making my burger and all. You brought it out to me with that fake ass smile across your face. You told me to have a good day. Hey, buddy, don't you tell me what to do!

Does that make sense to anyone? Why would I be nice to your face, then go home and BITCH about you doing your job?! That is all these cops are doing. And why else are they doing it? Oh, I don't know. Probably for shits and giggles. OH WAIT!! Because the speed limit was set there to save your life. Not so you can see how fast above it you can go. Nope. To maybe, but hopefully not, save your life!

So just keep this in mind next time you get pulled over (which for everyone's back accounts sake, I hope that is never). The cops aren't out to get you. They aren't bored and are just trying to find something to do. They are there to uphold the law. They are there to protect you from possibly getting in a serious car accident. THEY ARE JUST DOING THEIR JOB!

Keep it up, and karma may bite you in the ass. And these cops could come into YOUR place of employment and bitch at YOU for doing YOUR job..