I saw a post on Facebook the other day, it was talking about how this couple, whose names I will keep secret, have been together for 6 months and have not had a single fight yet. I don't know about the rest of you, but that is not something I would brag about. That means in their relationship, one, or both, of them are bending their thoughts to fit the others thoughts, that way it does not cause a fight. OR it means that they agree on everything and when they do finally have a fight, it will be a blow out.
There is nothing good that comes from not fighting. When a couple fights it means that they have differences and are not afraid to speak them and fight for what they believe in. During a fight, the couple can learn how the other works. What to say, what not to say, how to go about things better. If you go your entire relationship without having a disagreement, are you actually being true to who you really are? And if you do finally have a fight, how is that going to go over? You won't know what to do, or say, or what will happen in the end. Fighting is healthy; have your own thoughts and opinions and don't be afraid to fight for them.
Now, I am sure some of you are saying, "Well there is a difference between a disagreement and an argument." Yes, you're right, there is a difference. But the only difference is how you go about it. If you hold off for so long without ever having a disagreement, you will eventually end up in a fight. And when that time comes, neither will know what to do.
Personally, I think fighting is healthy. My boyfriend and I fight all the time; sometimes about stupid things, sometimes about more important and bigger things. No matter what we fight or argue about, we always say sorry or come to a compromise or whatever be the case so that we have a settled agreement. Think about it next time you fight, that you're not going to break up, but yet in the end, you will know more about your partner and will be closer in the end.
